What is your definition of a “normal family” ? Do you think a new definition of family is starting to emerge in our society? What experiences do you have with alternative family structures in general?
What do you think about same-sex marriage? Do you think gay marriage should be permitted or not? Why? Do you think it will be allowed in Italy in your lifetime?
Read A ‘Normal’ Family by Lisa Belkin
http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/02/23/a-normal-family/
Read, watch Obama on legalizing same-sex marriage
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/10/us/politics/obama-says-same-sex-marriage-should-be-legal.html?_r=1&ref=homosexuality
Listen to Young New Yorkers Speak Out on Gay Marriage
http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2011/07/21/nyregion/20110720-gay-marriage-young-voices.html?ref=samesexmarriage
When we usually think of a "normal family", we imagine a perfect family with a man, a woman and their children.
RispondiEliminaHowever, nowadays things have changed and a new definition of family is starting to emerge in our society.
Today there are families with separated or divorced parents, families with rowdy children, people living together, others married, heterosexual, bisexual, gay, lesbian...
Unfortunately same sex marriage is not permitted in all countries. Personally I think that it should be permitted and I hope that it will be allowed in Italy soon.
In my opinion a "normal family" is one where there is love and respect, where sometimes people argue but then make peace. No matter if there are a man and a woman, two men or two women. Love belongs to all.
A few days ago I tried to think about pro and con of same-sex marriage but sincerely I could find only one con against a lot of pro. I think,as Federica said,that the most important things that build a family are love and respect! It's true that we are not used to see such an "original" kind of family...but if we begin to teach to children that same-sex marriage are not so strange, maybe in the future people will axept them.
RispondiEliminaSome people could say,as I read in the article "A normal family", that God did not make same sex people to have children for a reason...I will dare to say that maybe gay or lesbian people exist in order to welcome and love all the children who are parentless or who "NORMAL FAMILIES" misstreated.
I am sure that is not fair to discriminate gay people!They are not bad people,they are not criminals...they only want love and respect! I also think that same-sex marriage should be permitted...and not only civil marriage but also the religious one for people who believe in God. I think that religion should be for love and not against it. There are too many bad things in the world...Why will we make of an innocent fact a reason of unease and discrimination???
A “normal family” is a group of related people which includes dad, mum and children. This people live together at home and are not separated. However I think that this definition is going to change in our society because new family structure are starting to appear. I think about 2 people who decide to live together without get married, or same-sex marriage, or unmarried couples (or gay and lesbian couples) who want to raise children; or single women who have children without a male partner to help raise them, or women who do not have children. So our society is going to change.
RispondiEliminaI’m not against gay marriage, but I think they shouldn’t adopt children because children need to have one dad and one mum and not 2 dads or 2 mums. I think that it won’t be allowed in Italy because we have a culture and a way of thinking which is difficult to change. Furthermore we have the Pope who influences many people.
As a "normal family" I mean mother, father and children living together. I agree that a new definition of family is starting to emerge in our society.
RispondiEliminaI've got some uncles that are divorced with children, obviously there are some problems but I don't consider these situations as catastrophes! Sometimes it is better to stop the relationship rather than continue it.
About gay marriage I think that they can be permitted because a marriage is a certification of a relationship and implies love, respect and trust. The only thing I don't agree to permit is given children to these couples.
A normal family does not exist,what is a family? WHO CAN REALLY GIVE A DEFINITION TO THE WORD "FAMILY"?????????????
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I agree with gay marriage but what is more important is that EVEN gay couples can adopt children,
Do you really think that it is better to leave children dying on the street instead of being adopted by a gay couple????
Now i want to read your answers!!!!!!!!!
People who thinks that children who lives in a gay family are going to be in a way"strange" make me wanna puke!
I'm gay and i do not understand why in Italy i can not marry my boyfriend or why I can not have a child only because of my sexuality.
So take off the children to divorced couples or family with only father or mother!
They do not have both mother and Father!
In the end i just want to say that children in my oppinion do not NEED mother and father.........THEY DO NEED LOVE
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RispondiEliminahave a magnet where there is written: "Family is a little world created by love". I think this is the perfect definition of family. No allusions to number of people, sexuality, origins, age ... Thus, I can't understand why two people shouldn't get married, even if they are of the same sex. We should live in a free country, where respect might be the base of our constitution. I find unrespectful instead to prevent two people from marriage just because of their "taste" in fact of partner. We are too linked to traditions, unable to understand that the sentence "we have to learn from the past" doesn't only mean to take example from our predecessors, but also to learn to not repeat their mistakes.
RispondiEliminaTalking about the adoption of children by homo-couples, I actually do have some doubts. Not because I do not considere this kind of parents able to raise a child in the best way possible, absolutely, but because I think, as an example, of the importance for me to have two different people, of different sex, to ask for different kind of things. Even during a divorce, the parents or the court pay attention that the child remains in contact with both mama and dad, unless one or both of them are not a danger for her/him- and anyway in this case the child suffers. So I am not sure if having two mamas would replace the role of a dad. And vice-versa. I may be wrong, I know my experience is limited, but before taking a position I would reflect about this.
Nowadays it's undeniable that the definition of family is gradually changing because there is more freedom, more opportunities and so on compared to ancient times, but I think that this new way of a "family" it's still to be considered normal and we have to accept it, wheter it is between same-sex people or not, between people of different races, unmarried ones... Because I've been raised with a Catholic way of thinking for me the best way for a couple would be male-female, but differently from before I'm more open-minded and I'm the opinion that gay marriage shouldn't be refused, this is why in general I believe that a family is essentially someone that loves you, protects you, and takes care of you. In Italy I'd say that for now gay marriage won't be allowed, due to the fact that it's still a very Catholic country, maybe later on hopefully it'll be.
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