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the Facebook Resisters
Do you agree with any of the opinions expressed? Do you feel your friendships are strengthened or weakened by the site? Have you ever had an experience similar to Mr. Balcomb’s and encountered someone in real life whose personal pictures and information you’d reviewed online? How critical is Facebook to your life? Would you ever consider deleting your account?
Nowadays always more and more people use facebook to remain in contact with each other, to chat, to post links, to comment, to post photos..
RispondiEliminaHowever, like everything, it's good not to overdue with it.
In my opinion it' s wrong to say " Facebook is a good thing" so as "Facebook is a wrong thing". It' s only a site, where you can share things with other people and if you don't spend many time on it I don't see the problem.
Personally, I don' t spend too much time on Facebook..I use it mainly to remain in contact with my friends that live abroad and that I can't see often. I think that if it wouldn't be for that, I would delete it without problems.
Surely, Facebook it's not(and never will be) the centre of my life.
Facebook is a tool and like every tools it can have bad or good sides, pro and cons, and it is our choice how to use it.
RispondiEliminaPersonally I use it to chat with my friends, to post and to comment photos and links. Often my schoolmates and I use it for school, it is like our online school diary and it becomes very useful!
Sometimes I used it to say something that in "real life" I was not able to say.
In a way it can help to strengthen the friendships. Once using it I found an argentine boy with my same surname and we discovered he originally came from north Italy. Another time I found sons of my parent's old friends and now we can remain in contact.
I have never had an experience similar to Mr. Balcomb's because I tend to agree the friendship only with people I know a little bit.
maybe one day I can get bored of it and so I would delete it.
Facebook, during the last years, has widely spread and has become a well-known social network. Most people do have an account on Facebook.
RispondiEliminaI've got a Facebook account too. I signed in years ago. I don't use Facebook too much, sometimes I may share a link, post some photos, but not really often. I mainly use it to chat with my friends (the closest ones) and maybe comment on links and photos.
Many people, on the other hand, use Facebook for everything: if they're having a bad day, they go and write it on their wall, if they took some photos, they immediately go and post them on the site.
So, I think that Facebook is seen differently from many people: many use it too much, and think it is quite important, others don't use it so often and wouldn't mind deleting their account.
Personally, I would delete it; I don't need Facebook to chat with the friends of mine, whom I could see in real life. And I don't even need to share photos and update personal things. The only aspect that keeps me on Facebook is that it helps me to keep in contact with my relatives and friends who live abroad. I've got many cousins in England, and thanks to Facebook I'm able to keep in contact with them, which is very easy.
As a conclusion, Facebook, like everything, has got positives and negatives sides, and like evertyhing else, must be used with moderation and in a responsible way.
Who does not know Facebook?
RispondiEliminaThis social network has quickly become famous all over the world. Nowadays 800 million people are registered on it.
I agree with Luana that Facebook has got positives and negatives sites and it must be used with moderation.
Personally, I've got a Facebook account and
I do not spend to much time on it.
I use it mainly to keep in contact with my friends. Sometimes I also post photos or comments and write something, like piece of songs lyrics, on my wall.
Facebook also helps me to stay in touch with people I met abroad and that, I think, is a positive and useful reason.
However, I've never consider deleting my account but, if necessary I would do it.
How said Giulia, if I wouldn't use facebook to contact my friends abroad, I will deleat it.
RispondiEliminaActually my relatieves live abroad and facebook helps me interacting with them. But I have also many friends living nearby and with them facebook is only useful to decide when and where we will meet. I really like much more seeing and talking with someone in real life than on facebook, but when it's the only way to do it it's better than nothing.
I think that facebook is an useful thing, but only if used with intelligence.
RispondiEliminaPersonally I use it to keep in contact with friends who live abroad, and thanks to this social network I achieve to find an old friend of my mother who used to play with her when they were little. Now he lives with his wife and daughter in America and he works for the National Geographic!
Normally I use Facebook only to write private messages or to write quotes of books or jokes on my wall. I don't like to leave messages on my or other's wall,actually I will have my privacy. Besides I can't stand people who write on Facebook all the things they do in their private life. First of all it doesn't interest anyone, secondly if I want to say thank you to a friend or if I want to say that I love my boyfriend I will prefere to say it in private! It occured me many times to think that maybe it would be better to delate it, and the only thing that make me keep it, as others said, are all the friends who are living abroad that maybe I would stop to have their news by delating facebook.
I think that facebook can be a very useful tool, but only if we use it with intelligence. I use it to ask to my classmates something about the homework that I don't understand, or when I'm absent. I like to post photos and links and comment it with my friends.
RispondiEliminaI don't really like people that write everything they do in a day, because it isn't a very interest thing, but can be lovely to see a friend or my boyfriend that leave on my wall a funny/lovely message. Personally, I spend a lot of time on facebook and for the moment I've never thought on delete it.
In my opinion Facebook is a good method to remain in contact with the people you love, because you can chat with them whenever you want and at every time, without spending money and without spending so much time (instead of for example calling someone or texting a message), and also you can post comments on your friends' pictures, links and so on.
RispondiEliminaI use it mainly for chatting with friends and some times playing games, but I spend no more than 2-3 hours using it, so I think that it would not be a problem to delete my Facebook account.
I try to use it with a critical eye, using it for a little time and trying not to do as some people do, such as posting everyday comments and links of what they are doing at the moment, or stupid things.
I have had an experience similar to the one of Mr. Balcombs, that is, seeing someone's photos on Facebook and then seeing him/her in reality.
The article about Facebook was very interesting. I agree with some expressed opinions like Ashleigh Elser's opinion. She says that when she was studying in America she didn't call her relatives and friends because using Facebook, seeing pictures and updates of her friends she felt really connected to them. I thing it's a pro of Fb because you can easily keep in touch with people on the other side of the world. For example, this year one of my friends is in California for the 4th year of school. with facebook I have the possibility to chat with her to see photos and to send some message to her, without spending much money. In this case I believe that Fb strenghened our friendship, but in general I don't think that a wall, a comment or a link could help a friendship. If a frienship is a good friendship we don't need facebook to maintain it.
RispondiEliminaI'we never had an experience similar to Mr. Balcomb's because I pay attention on my friendships on Facebook, I ask it and accept it only to people I know.
I don't think is critical to my life, it's a good tool for me because I use it in a good way, I don't spend much time on it, until now I have never consider the idea to delate it!
I don't dislike having Facebook, it has it good side, sometimes is actually really useful. I don't use it so much, but I do use it mostly to stay in touch with friends that I got to know while I was abroad. I like also looking up friends' photos and links, they're funny sometimes.
RispondiEliminaI think though, that Facebook can be a good "meeting space" only if we use it in a clever way: thinking before acting, this because what one writes in the net is indelible and it could be interpreted in the wrong way from others who read it.
I also agree with the opinions shared in the article, and as those people I thought about deleting my account more than once. I've never been "brave" enough though. Because I've always thought that if I did delete it I would have missed all the funny things that my friends usually share on their walls, and it would be more difficult to "meet" my Australian friends. Furthermore, also our little "class page" is useful and if I've got a doubt about school homework I just post it and find the right solution with my classmates.
In conclusion I can say that I won't delete my Facebook account, but I just will be more careful because I'm aware of the risks that somebody can take having a personal page online.
I really like having a Facebook account, it allows me to keep in touch with my buddies whenever I want (or whenever they're online), it's a fast way to arrange some hangouts with them.. You don't know what homework you have to do? Let's find it out posting the question in your "classmates Group", sooner or later they will give you the right answer. Besides, you can have a lot of fun on there, viewing some funny pics or videos, sharing jokes everyone can read and comment on, or playing some build-in games.
RispondiEliminaAs I said before, Facebook is a good tool to keep in touch with friends, hovewer I cannot say my friendships are strenghtened neither weakened, they remained on the same level like they were before signing up to Facebook.
Actually there are people who consider erasing their accounts and that's fine, you have your reasons and it's fine, but people complaining about Facebook saying there's no privacy on there and that everyone know everything about you, I personally think they're dumb-ass. I see it quite obvious that if you write a new post each 15 minutes telling people what you did, who did you argue with, who you slept with and so on, the others will see that and possibly talk 'bout it.
So Facebook is not that dangerous and annoying when people are careful with what they're writing and showing on there.
Regarding Mr.Balcomb's experience, it already happened to me viewing a Facebook account of someone I had seen in real life and I have to say that it was kind of akward feeling, knowing stuff about someone who think you don't know anything about him.
I signed up on Facebook last summer because I went to Germany for a month and I thought it could be a good way to keep in touch with my friends and family here in Italy while I was abroad. It actually worked, but the curious thing was that I could know much about them, but if I was asked, I couldn’t tell from their profiles how they actually were, if good or not. That’s maybe one of the problems of Facebook: many people use it for stupid things and you end up knowing the favourite film of someone, and not where he or she lives! Or you think to know someone, then you meet him or her, just to discover you don’t know fast anything of his or her life!
RispondiEliminaThe opinion with which I agree is that of Mr. Munns, who said that “ his dating life had benefited from his lack of an online dossier” because “They haven’t had a chance to dig up your entire life on Facebook before you meet.” In fact, I think that maybe knowing many things about the past of a person before knowing him or her can produce kind of “prejudices” that then ruin the relationship.
On the other side, the site is very useful too: it helps us to keep in touch with friends who live far away, or to share photos and so on and it can help to strengthen our friendships....but it can ruin them too!!! In fact, sometimes, it is better that some things remain hidden or they could hurt!
Personally, I’ve never had an experience similar to Mr. Balcomb’s even if I think it’s a quite common experience, but I prefer to meet friends from my “real life”, not who I have known on Facebook I mean.
Facebook is not too critical to my life, because my life, my real life, is with my boyfriend, family and friends, so people that I can meet every day and not only on the site but, up to now, I’ve never considered deleting my account because I think it is very useful.
I use social networks such as Twitter and Facebook. I can say that Facebook is known to all my friends so I use it more but if I think about Twitter I would say that is more reliable and I have never considered deleting my account.
RispondiEliminaI have not even considered deleting my Facebook account but I understand that there could be situations like the one of Mr. Balcomb in fact I do not like people that pretend to know someone only through Facebook. And I do not even like that people could watch my profile even if they do not know me so I do not permit much people to see it. I do not also permit to see it to some of my friends.
All this because last year I realized that Facebook is like a trap and I am always afraid of publishing comments or posts which everyone can see because if a person really wants to watch your profile in some way he or she manage to do it even if you try to protect it. For example I know that several people are controlled on Facebook before starting a career and when I see some posts of my friends I realize that they will never gain a job if their boss will look for information in their profiles.
If I think about my Facebook-life I notice that some years ago I used it the whole day, I have even started knowing my best friend and my actual boyfriend on it but now I use it only for school, in fact if I have to talk to my friends I prefer using Skype because if I write something important or interesting on Facebook I feel like I have to cancel it.
In conclusion I would not delete my account but I avoid publishing silly or compromising things.
I had already considered deleting my account before start travelling. But I didn't and now I guess I wouldn't. I mean, I'm start having friends all over the world: in America, Mexico, New Zealand, France, Japan, Brazil and so on. Why should I ever want to delete the fastest way to keep in touch with them? I like Facebook to organize and advertise events, to chat with my friends and to upload photos as well. That kind of stuff. But it doesn’t mean I’m not worried about it although there shouldn’t be any reason of being it. You sit on your chair all by yourself in front of that bright screen. Signing up you’re not realizing that every single thing you’re going to do from that moment on is not yours anymore.
RispondiEliminaI share Ashleigh Elser’s comment: “I wasn’t calling my friends anymore. I was just seeing their pictures and updates and felt like that was really connecting to them”. What is happening to me is that I’ve missed some of those behaviours that really connect you to a person, like calling. It’s sadly true as you start to believe they’re not that important anymore. Fortunately these losses don’t weaken my relationships.
Facebook doesn’t strengthen my friendships either but it let me “meet” new people. A couple of times I started getting to know guys on Facebook, it is easier talking with someone you don’t have to look at. They were all friends of friends, people who lived close to my village. The only things I knew, before “getting closer”, were their names (but not thank to Facebook!). I’m not that silly to start conversations with random people. I enjoyed it! Facebook actually gave me the chance to make new friends.
All the guys I met in the virtual life, I also met them in the real one. Fortunately I’ve never had an experience like the one Mr. Balcom had. It must have been a bit shocking. Standing right next to a lady whose you know things of her private life and that you are supposed to know because you are “friends”. The only way to understand how incredibly powerful Facebook is, I guess.
In summery Facebook can be used with serenity only if used brightly.
First of all I haven’t got Facebook. I haven’t got it because it is a bad thing, but because I don’t like using Computers and technology in general. I don’t like spending all my free time sitting in front of a screen. I prefer calling someone when I need something or just go out and meet them. Obviously I can’t do in this way with friends who live away from my home, but I can write them letters or e-mails.
RispondiEliminaI share Ashleigh Elser’s comment: “I wasn’t calling my friends anymore. I was just seeing their pictures and updates and felt like that was really connecting to them”. I think that Facebook is a good think to be in touch with people but in this way we are connected with them only virtually.
We also can be in touch with people that we don’t know and it could be dangerous. I think I won’t create an account in Facebook in the future.
facebook has good and bad aspects too.I have it and I think in general that is very useful I can keep in touch very quickly with my friends and people that I met in real life at least one time,I can organise or partecipate to a meeting with people that maybe I don't see every day,so that I can continue having a relatinship with them.I don't believe in having a relationship only on facebook with someone because is not really a natural one,is important to see people in reality to understand what they are really feeling looking for example at the expression and the tone of their voice. I agree with Ashleigh Elser's opinion too if you could not see personally someone,because you are abroad facebook with the possibility of sharing photos and detailed information on what you are doing, offers a the closest way to keep in touch.The only thing that I believe it s important is to have a secure account and to allow only friends seeing the profile
RispondiEliminaI think that facebook like all other things can be useful if you use it correctly. Facebook is very useful to keep you in touch with friends who live abroad. When Balcomb says that he knew almost everything of a girl he had never met and for this reason he considered Facebook something unhealthy I was a bit astonished. I think that Balcomb used to spend a lot of time on Facebook because if you don't spend too much time on it you can't know all the relatives of a girl. Apart from that I personally don't use Facebook too much. I think it is a good diary for remembering the birthdays of the friends, because sometimes can happen that you forget one, even though I hope you will remember those of your closest friends. In order not to let other people know all about you, I think you aren't obliged to write a post every time something happens to you, so it is your decision if others can know everything about you or not. Like everything else you have to know how to use it and its role in your life to make it useful.
RispondiEliminaI think that nowadays almost everyone has got a facebook profile and like everything in life it has negative and positive sides.
RispondiEliminaI don't mind having facebook or not, I mean, of course I use it, if not I wouldn't have signed up, but I try not to use it too much.
I've signed up almost one year ago to keep in touch with some german freinds and since that I use it for this porpouse, that is chatting with foreign friends that I meet when I travell.
On this side I find it really useful, becase use the phone between differents states isn't cheap at all, so is also an economical question and I think that the main quality of this social network is that is free and everyone can has an account on it. I use it also to search or to text to some friends whom I don't have the phone number or to visit our classgroup.
I can't understand people who spend their life on fb, posting whatever they do at any time and I'm not agree posting too many photos on fb.
Of course I've considered the idea of deleting my fb profile, but i think I would never do it beacuse if I use it in a smart way, it could defenitly be a useful tool.
I signed up in facebook in 2009 after a friend's advice, at first i loved it. I used to keep in touch with a lot of people(friends, family, ect) using the chat or private messaging! But during the last year i've stopped using facebook like i did before because it had become boring. Lately i've considered the idea of deleting my profile but i don't think i'll ever do it. In some ways it is still useful, the class group is a good idea i can ask my classmates homework for example or if i don't understand something there's always someone online that helps me.
RispondiEliminaI have to say that using facebook didn't influence my friendships, i prefer to keep in touch with my closest friends with the mobile phone.
In conclusion i think facebook really helps connecting people but it has to be used responsibly.
No I wouldn't! I'm only in agreement on the fact that it is a real waste of time..
RispondiEliminaI'm not an addicted, but instead a kind of nosy :)I like to discover what people think and do!